We all come across situations where we lost our job, health, relationships and much more. It is a part and parcel of life. However, it is absolutely up to us how we react to such situations. Either be grateful for what we have and be happy or be pessimistic about what we have lost and invite stress and sadness.
Let me share with you a story of patience. According to hadiths (teachings of Islam) Prophet Ayub (Peace Be Upon Him) would afflict with many adversities throughout his life but he never complained about them.
Once upon a time, his big farm was attacked by the thieves wherein many of his servants were killed and carried away forcibly all his cattle. The Prophet Ayub (Peace Be Upon Him) did not feel disappointment for this loss and thanked Allah for whatever he was left with.
What happened after a few days was much disgraceful. The roof of his house fell down and many members of his family were crushed. He was shocked but he did not shed a tear at all.
Instead of complaining against his agony he prostrated before the Almighty and remarked that possessions and children were the gifts from Allah. It is useless to lament over the things that were never of our own.
The adversities did not stop there. After a few years, he suffered from skin disease. His body parts were covered with loathsome sores. It was full of worms. It is narrated in a hadith that he picked up those worms which fell from his abscess and praised Allah for creating them.
Because of this condition, his false friends ridiculed and looked down upon him. His wife Rahima also grew tired of him in the long run and prayed for his death. Moreover, she cursed her husband for retaining integrity in Allah.
However, when Prophet Ayub (Peace Be Upon Him) was in extreme agony he prayed:
“Truly adversity has afflicted me and You are Most Merciful of all who show mercy.” [Quran, 21: 83]
You might be thinking why we need to be so grateful even if life is full of adversity. It is because gratitude has many benefits in life. As the Quran says, “…And who is grateful does so to the profit of his own soul…” [Quran, 31:12]
Here are some physical and mental benefits for being grateful.
Gratitude restraints stress, sadness and depression
Sadness, stress and depression afflict us when we give them space in life. For instance, you lost your job. Naturally, you will cry foul for career and money for a better life. However, if you try hard on yourself it will lead to sadness, stress and sometimes depression too.
However, if you think of the ways you can find out another job. Tell yourself that the job that you lost might not be good for you.
Think of what you are left with (more time for self-improvement and family time) and you will not be sad about what you have lost.
Gratitude boosts your confidence
When you remind yourself of your achievements, blessings and people who are important in your life you will be confident enough to tackle your problems.
Being grateful for your abilities, skills, interests, and aptitudes will boost your feelings of self-worth and stoke your confidence.
The practice of gratitude is the great habit to keep negativity away from your life. Use your thinking effort to count blessings in your life instead of wasting time on negativity.
Gratitude cherishes empathy
Gratitude cherishes empathy practice gratitude if you want to be less materialistic. Because, when you focus on your own blessings, you become keenly aware of what other people don’t have. Once you realise the problems others are you will inspire to support them. For instance, when you feel grateful for easy access to food and water, you might be inspired to support or help someone who doesn’t.
Gratitude improves your physical health
A study revealed in 2012 says people who practice gratitude have fewer pains and report feeling healthier than other people.
Because, those who are grateful for their lives are habitually indulging in healthy activities, eat better, and seek treatment for health concerns, adding to their longevity.
Gratitude strengthens relationships.
Grateful people are optimistic and see positive things in people. Which helps them love others while ignoring negative aspects.
You appreciate others for the positive aspects of their lives which makes them feel better. It strengthens feelings of intimacy and connectedness with others.
If you are struggling to make your relationships better then be grateful.
Gratitude makes you patient
We all struggle to be patient. We are irked if we are forced to wait for even two minutes. But, don’t worry, gratitude can help you to be patient.
In one recent study, psychologists found that being filled with gratitude can help us make longer-term decisions and be patient for the better result.
Forget about adversities in life and count blessings and achievements your life will be happier than ever.