There are two types of people who are rare. One who doesn’t want to do extraordinary and another one who is extraordinary and successful. Whereas, there are many who think of doing extraordinary but fail to do so.
How come when people think of doing extraordinary to be successful but they fail? It is because they fail to believe in themselves and initiate in the first place.
Bob Knight once said, “Most people have the will to win, few have the will to prepare to win.”
I was reading a book named ‘The Power Of Habit: why we do what we do and how to change’ authored by Charles Duhigg. The book is very informative and the techniques to improve life are feasible to apply in life. The last chapter that I felt to be shared with all of you. Especially to those whose lives they think going nowhere.
Excerpts of the book...
William James who died in 1910 whose father was an accomplished theologian and his brother was a brilliant writer whose novels are still studied today. Though he hailed from a successful family, but even in his thirties, he was a big failure.
He believed that he is not good at anything. Initially, he wanted to become a painter, then enrolled in medical school, then left to join an expedition up the Amazon River. At the age of 28, he thought of committing suicide. But failed in it too.
After two months, he thought to spend one year in a one-year long experiment before committing any rash. He would spend twelve months believing that he had control over himself and his destiny, that he could become better, that he had the free will to change.
“I think that yesterday was a crisis. I will assume for the present- until next year- that it is no illusion. My first act of free will shall be to believe in free will,” James wrote in his diary. Over the next one year, he practised every day. In his diary, he wrote as if his control over himself and his choices were never in question.
This practice led him to a remarkable success. He got married, He started teaching at Harvard. He began spending time with Oliver Wendell Holmes, Jr. who would go on to become a Supreme Court justice, and Charles Sanders Peirce, a pioneer in the study of semiotics, in a discussion group they called Metaphysical Club. He became American philosopher and psychologist
Charles Duhigg writes in his book that, if you believe you can change- if you make it a habit- the change becomes real. This is the real power of habit. That your habit is what you choose them to be.
Believe is everything. Once you start believing that you can change your life then you start acquiring habits that bring you closer to your dream. To believe in yourself you have to practice as James would practice by writing in his diary. No matter how disastrous your life has become, make yourself believe in you and the belief will become real one day.