The relationship is one of the most important aspects of life. However, many ignore this and live their lives being self-centric. At some point in their lives, when they realise the importance of family and relatives it gets too late.
Since Islam is not only a religion but an entire life. It has taught us the importance of family and relatives through the life of the most influential person in history: Prophet Muhammad (Peace Be Upon Him). Get the book ‘The 100: A Ranking of the Most Influential Persons in History’ authored by Michael H. Hart and know why the writer considered Prophet Muhammad the most influential person in history.
Relationship with relatives
Relatives hold importance in everyone’s life as they are extended family from your grandparents. That is why Prophet Muhammad (Peace Be Upon Him) had a good relationship with the tribe of Quraysh to which he belonged and in which he lived. In result, he had respected place in his society both before and after his prophethood.
“Never! By Allah, Allah will never disgrace you. You unite your relatives and you bear the burden of the weak (of our society). You help the poor and the needy, you are honourable to all guests and you bear harm in the path of truthfulness.”
This was said by Khadija (May Allah Bless Her) who was one of Prophet Muhammad (Peace Be Upon Him) wives. When Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) was received prophecy he was shivering and bewildered upon what was happening to him. He returned home and told everything to Khadija. That is when she solaced him by saying the above phrases.
The above hadith clearly expresses the importance of relatives in one’s life. Actually, by being kind and helpful to relatives we are making our ways towards paradise. It is a way to please Allah and receive his blessings. Your relatives are a source of your success in this life and the life hereafter.
The Holy Prophet Muhammad (Peace Be Upon Him) once said: Some people go on an evil path and commit sins, but they behave gently with their relatives and because of this silat ar-rahm their wealth is increased and their lives elongated. How much reward would have been theirs if they had been good people?
Relationships with Wives and children
I have seen many people who appear to be good when they are with friends and relatives. However, when it comes to wife and children they are like a monster. They consider their wives nothing. I think that is the reason Prophet Muhammad (Peace Be Upon Him) said once, “The best among you are those who behave best toward their wives. I am the best among you toward his wives. The best among you is the one who is the kindest to his wife and the worst among you is the one who treats his wife badly.”
Your wife is the only person who stays in your life forever irrespective of situations and ups and downs in your life. If you do not respect your wife you will lose respect and prosperity in your married life. See what Allah says about wife and children in the Quran: And those who pray, “Our Lord! Grant unto us wives and offspring who will be a source of comfort/happiness/consolation, and give us (the grace) to lead the righteous.” [Quran, 25:74]
Your children are not for venting your anger by beating and yelling at them, but to lead them with respect, emotions and affection. Teach them so much that they can live their lives with conscience and affection.
“Your wealth and your children are only a trial, whereas God, with Him, is a great reward (Paradise).” [Quran, 64:15]