You woke up with a fresh and peaceful mind. You are served with delicious and favourite breakfast. As soon as you entered into your office your boss and the team welcomed you with a standing ovation for your previous day exemplary performance. You came home in the evening and you are so grateful that you went for the dinner in a restaurant to share your gratitude with your family.
Good times give a sense of gratitude and you become grateful for the good times in your life. It is easy to be grateful at the time when everything goes well and as planned. On the other hand, it is tough to be grateful when life gives you a lemon. We tend to forget that we can actually sell that lemon and be happy with the money we received by selling that lemon.
Very funny, isn’t it?
But, how can you sell the lemon? Selling the lemons (adversities) that life has given to you means avoiding it and embracing the good things that we are blessed with. Which is being grateful in life even if you are going through with adverse situations.
I don’t mean that you ignore the adversities so much that you do not do anything to get rid of it. But, I am saying do not pay unnecessary attention to it. You can read the book called “The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F*ck” authored by Mark Manson.
Here are some tips and techniques to be grateful in the time of adversities.
Write down blessings
“And if you should count the favours of Allah, you could not enumerate them. Indeed, Allah is Forgiving and Merciful.” [Quran, 16: 18]
The hadith clearly says that we can not count the blessings and favours Allah has done to us. However, in the time of adversity, we tend to forget all the blessings and remind ourselves of the bad things that are happening and happened to us. Which causes many detrimental repercussions.
To avoid this, list down all the good things happening in your life. Thank Allah and those around you for the good things they have done to you. This will ultimately make you feel good and reduce the stress that is causing because of unnecessary attention you are paying to the adversities in your life.
Indulge in charity and social work
Believe it or not, there are many who are in more adverse situations than you. But you are unaware of it. Go out and indulge in some social activities. Help someone who is in need. It can be anything from dropping a blind person to his home or give some money to a needy person.
All these activities make you feel good and your stress and sadness will be reduced. This will also help you to understand that there are many who need your help.
Seek help through patience and prayers
And seek help through patience and prayer, and indeed, it is difficult except for the humbly submissive [to Allah ]. [Quran, 2:45]
We are not patient at the time of adversities. We want to get rid of the adversities as soon as it arrives in your life. This behaviour leads to sadness, stress and sometimes depression too.
Instead, pray and ask God to get you out of the adverse situation. While doing this be patient because God likes who are patient and consistent in prayer.
Do the things that you are good at
Have you ever pondered upon why you are stressed and sad in the time of adversities? It is because we send out a message to own-self that we are nothing and we can not do extraordinary in life. That is what makes us feel inferior and complainant to God and others.
On the other hand, figure out one thing that you are good at. Do it and you will be amazed. This practice reminds you that you are capable of something. This practice will also help you to appreciate your skills and talent. Which gives you a sense of gratitude.
Find positive/ lessons in adversity
Remember one thing, every hardship has something to teach you. It has life lessons for you. However, you cannot figure out lessons in adversities if you are stressed and cursing yourself.
Instead, practice the above tips and try to be calm and happy so that you can learn something from your hardship.
If you will not learn anything you will be in double loss- you will be mentally and physically affected and you don’t find good or learn anything from the situation.