We all come across situations in life where we feel like nothing is going right, there is no chance at all. However, in such situations, some people emerge as more powerful, enthusiastic and with great solutions. Why is it so? It is because they have a positive attitude towards life. Irrespective of the situations they deal with them smartly. That is what makes them extraordinary and happy life. Let me share with you a story that will help you understand the meaning of a positive attitude.
It is a very famous story. Once upon a time, a shoe company sent two salesmen to Africa to analyse the market potential for their products. One salesman was sent to the east coast of Africa, while the other salesman was sent to the west coast of Africa. Both the salesmen completed a basic survey of the target market and called back to the office to give feedback.
The salesman sent to the east coast of Africa reported: “No one here wears any shoes, there is no market for us here!”. The other salesman sent a message “No one here wears any shoes, there is a huge market for us, send inventory fast!”.
You don’t have to be a salesperson to relate to this story. We all come across such situations in life where we have two options to choose one is negative that leads to the damaging result and second is positive that leads to a better result. You failed in an exam it does not mean that your life has reached to the end. You got fired from your job does not mean that you are not capable enough to get another better job or start something new. You lose huge money in the business does not mean that you can not run the business or earn a huge profit. It’s all about learning from your unfortunate situations and do better next time. It is about seeing something positive that nobody else is able to see.
There are many IAS officers who could not get selected in the first attempt. Do you think they would have got the positions that they possess now if they did not try again with a positive attitude and enthusiasm?
It is your positive attitude that makes a small business bigger and bigger. It is your positive attitude that nudges you to try one more time. It is your positive attitude that makes you feel happy in life irrespective of situations you are facing.
You might be thinking that a positive attitude is something that extraordinary and strong people possess. Which is absolutely wrong. It is a positive attitude that makes people extraordinary happy in life. It can be developed gradually. As the saying goes, “practice makes man perfect.”
Here are some tips and habits that can help you to build a positive attitude towards life….
Consider adversities in life as challenges
We don’t like problems. However, when it comes to challenge we want to accept it and win. Why not consider problems as challenges, after all, problems are life’s challenges. If you are not able to find a job then promise to your life that you will find a better job and win. If you are not able to get something done then tell yourself that you will get it done irrespective of hurdles you face throughout. The best part of challenges is that we don’t actually focus on problems but solutions. That is what requires to get rid of any problems.
Whatever happens, is for good
I have heard of this from my father more often that whatever happens is for good. I know it is hard to believe but it is real. This phrase actually matches the quote by Alexander Graham Bell, “When one door closes, another opens, but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us.”
Close your eyes and think of the adversities you faced in life and life after that adversities. You will find that you have learnt a lot from your adversities that life has thrown on you. The first thing you learnt is to handle the situation with ease in the future. Second is that you might have received something (good thing) that you never expected in return for losing something. Find something better in every situation.
Read self-help books
One of the best things you can do is read self-help books more often. Every successful people read self-help books because they know that such books teach readers how to deal with various situations and improve own personality. It also fills our mind with positivity. Successful people on an average read one self-improvement book per month. Get to know which book you should read in self-help genre here.
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Surround yourself with positive people
It is said by Jim Rohn that “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” If you are spending time with lazy and irresponsible people then you probably are irresponsible and lazy. If you are spending time with people who have a positive attitude and have good habits then you probably also have a positive attitude and good habits.
Isolate yourself in a room and analyse people with whom you hang out and books that you read. If you need to unfriend some friends and skip some books then don’t think twice before doing it. Or else, you will be in big trouble in future.
Leave what you can’t change
Many a time life gives you such lemons that you can not make lemonade from them. What will you do now? Instead of being stressed and vent your anger on other things just chill out. Give it some time. Because the situations that you can not do anything about is the situation that only needs time from you, nothing else.
It is great when you can change a circumstance and there is nothing wrong with us trying to do that, but things get dicey when we convince ourselves that changing our circumstances is the only way to happiness. “If the situation is out of your hands then chill out. It will make you happy.”
Remember, nothing can be built instantaneously. Follow the above tips and you will develop a positive attitude gradually in life. The more you are positive in life the more colorful and happy your life will be.